28 March 2021

How Billy Bobsleigh got burned (BB1)

A case study

Billy Bobsleigh did the math for the fourth time. It just had to be wrong, or could it be that he indeed messed up his otherwise simple calculations? But again, after the fourth time, he ended up with the same product. Conflicting thoughts flashed through his mind and Billy noticed that it even affected his body. His heart rate had gone up and his hands felt clammy. If his calculations were accurate it would have consequences for how he had read the Bible in the past and for his future reading of it. Despondency started to envelop him and move his inner life. If he would allow these thoughts and questions, his foundations, firmly established and construed by his church, selected authors and peers would be shaken up without having any clue where did would leave him, or take him. Thus, Billy decided to settle the inner dispute by holding on to the choice to maintain his faith journey the way he was taught: follow the heart and not reason.

Three years later Billy realized he’d been unsuccessful in shaking off the conflict of the mores of church propagated and encouraged simple faith on the one hand, and his hunger for understanding and investigation on the other. On the contrary; compared with three years earlier the babbling brook of questions had grown into a storm in his mind and heart. Where can I go with my questions and observations without being burned off or demonized, Billy wondered. My pastor? That wasn’t self-evident since the pastor regularly propagated that we, Christians, believe that the Bible is literally true, one day is always one day and not a second longer, the earth cannot be older than about 7000 years and one doesn't qualify for heaven unless baptized.

So Billy decided to take it to his Bible Study group which was quite convenient since they just started to study Exodus where the mass migration of the Jews to the promised land captures the imagination and raises questions.

The evening didn’t proceed the way Billy had hoped but unfortunately as expected:

So we’re talking about 600.000 men over twenty years of age, not mentioning the women and children, plus a crowd of riffraff and large flocks and herds of livestock? Everyone checked their bibles and nodded enthusiastically: Yes, that’s what it says.

And the whole bunch walked through the sea where God miraculously had provided a dry path for them to cross, all in one night?

Again the group checked the facts and nodded encouraging: Go Billy, go!

Is it reasonable to assume that most of these men were married and had one or two children? A bit of thinking in the group since these assumptions were not literally written down in the Bible. All of the group agreed that this was quite plausible and safe to assume, albeit somewhat conservative.

So we’re talking about, let’s say, at least 2 million people plus a whole lot of cattle. If they would walk in groups of four in line and were keeping Corona prescribed distance from each other, how long a cue are we talking about?

One group member, who worked in IT, took less than 5 seconds to cough up the answer: 750 kilometres (466 miles) and added that in reality, it must have been a much longer cue because of the cattle and stuff.

And this whole group walked through the sea in one night?

This instantaneously turned into a cacophony of discussion, suggestions, and alternative readings, where the faces of some of the group members had turned purple, but was cut short by the leader and partly resolved by him when he proposed that we’re serving a God of miracles who in His wisdom and power was able to perform the whole operation in one night. He added, now with a pastoral and fatherly face and voice, that if we start questioning these type of incidents we’re venturing into dangerous territory with the authority of the Bible at stake. And nobody wants that he’d rhetorically resumed, articulating the assumed common feelings of everyone in the group.

In the final “pray for each other” order of the evening, three group-members prayed for Billy, asking God to keep Billy close to Himself and help Bill to maintain his childlike faith.

Two years later Billy left the church.

To be continued...

(Exodus 12-14)

22 March 2021

When crystal isn't clear anymore

The back rows. Left. Near the emergency exit. For two years this is where they could be found on Sunday morning. The exit lured but for a long time the urge to stay was stronger; you don’t just walk away from your past, your friends, your social circle, and your spiritual home. That takes more than being frustrated over superficial, circular, dogma perpetuating 30 to 40-minute monologue reflections of the orator. You can stand that for a while because there’s always the after church refreshments; an opportunity to meet and deepen the bond with friends.

No, it was more like the outcome of a long process of chewing on questions that, considering their already long spiritual distance traveled, were quickly labeled inappropriate, or even heretic by those that know. The odd times that they did dare to ask the questions led quite a few to doubt the sincerity of their walk with God; we need to pray for them…

The leaders of their faith community responded empathetically. Some felt that they needed to do something with it whereas others quickly reverted back to the old, trusted but paper-thin rhetoric: keep on trusting, take it to the Lord in prayer, you know God loves you and has His best in mind for you….

The inability, or was it unwillingness, of the leaders to really do something with it made them decide, after ample deliberation, to definitely walk through the door under the green sign and leave the church and continue their faith journey without the connection to their local church.

They felt liberated at first but also sort of naked when taking those first steps without anchor points or confession of faith that made them part of a larger family.

I haven’t done any research but know from my conversations with people that in Evangelical circles the group in the back rows near the emergency exit is large, growing, and cannot be ignored. One gets tired of the format (liturgy), the other has had it with the experience and ego-centered rhymes that sell thirteen a dozen. Again others feel that their newfound hobby with focus on a “part truth” doesn’t get enough air time, or tired of the apparent dogmatic certainties that keep the confession nicely contained and the faith journey measurable. Or one has come to the end of its rope with the yoke of promised deepening of the faith, provided that….

This is what it seems on the surface. Beneath it is a deeper layer of sincere yearning for a deeper think-through of existential questions, philosophical and theological foundations.

This think-through requires a willingness to let go of the established Reformed-, Evangelical-, Pentecostal-, Full gospel-, and other conceivable frameworks within the protestant family.

Contemporary faith communities don’t seem to have good ideas or practices to handle this. Perhaps there is the fear that letting go of frameworks could implicitly mean a complete abandoning of it. Or maybe because those at the back near the exit is a relatively small and insignificant group of troublemakers and leaders don’t want to alienate those that occupy the seats in the first rows and prefer their ego striking affirmation: “great sermon brother. It was deeeep!”

Call me an optimist but I do believe that it’s possible for existing faith communities to facilitate and accommodate this necessary think through. It needs leaders who don’t immediately bend out of shape when one or more sheep start nibbling at an established dogma and leaders that recognize and identify with the process that those left at the back are going through and wholeheartedly want and can participate in it.

It’s too simple to draw the conclusion that those who leave turn away from God. Often they don’t have beef with God but with the common denominator of the largest group that decided for them who God is and how it all works.

If even possible, God is not easy to grasp, except for those that believe that it’s all as clear as crystal. The conversation about God, Christ, the Bible, our existence, life, and what not more has to be perpetual, and continuously needs fresh oxygen blown into it. There should never be a final word spoken about it by man. And that doesn't sit well with those that keep on gazing at their delusional crystal.

The phenomenon I describe here has been well captured by Kathy Escobar in her book “Faith Shift” (isbn 9781601425430).

"Faith Shift is a must-read for every doubter, misfit, or dreamer who has ever felt alone in the church."